66. Tess Devèze: Where Has the Sex Gone - Finding Intimacy by Happiness through Hardship published on 2021-10-19T17:35:32Z When did you first start talking about sex? Reading Cosmo magazine? Catching your first real R-rated movie? Or...when you listened awkwardly to the true, "birds and the bees" conversation. Never, in any of those chats, did they share how intimacy and sex changes as you age and especially as you go through chronic illness and cancer. This week's guest on "Happiness through Hardship" - The Podcast is a Melbourne, Australia based clinician whose expertise focuses on sex and intimacy. Tess Devèze, founder of ConnectAble Therapies and author of "A Better Normal" is an occupational therapist and sexologist. This episode is full of strategies and suggestions for couples wanting more and curious how to do it. Whether you're going through cancer, menopause or just too tired to prioritize intimacy, Tess has tons of ideas for you. In addition for serving as an expert to clients and inspiring people around the world, Tess has been battling stage three breast cancer for the past three years and has realized the troubles it can bring when it comes to intimacy, which is why “ConnectAble Therapies'' was born. Tess’s online intimacy and cancer support group has grown to over thousands of people where couples can learn about their feelings of desire, partner dynamics, and communication. So, I am beyond thrilled to have Tess educate us and provide resources on how we can find more intimacy even when our body is going through tons of changes. SHOW NOTES 5:01 - How Tess started working with sexuality 7:55 - The importance of opening up about any struggles 9:00 - Three main reasons people come to Tess for support 9:25 - Explaining atrophy 11:43 - Some products Tess recommends to help with atrophy 17:03 - Knowing it is okay to ease back into intimacy 22:19 - Realizing that touch doesn’t have to lead to sex 26:41 - Explaining Libido 31:52 - Tess recommends more helpful products for intimacy 38:42 Tess talks about "A Better Normal" 40:22 Tess and Caryn play The Grateful Game Tess's Book - "A Better Normal": https://amzn.to/3AQ1p1y PRODUCTS Replenz: https://amzn.to/3DZvRIH Vagisil: https://amzn.to/3jgETJi Olive and Bee: https://www.amazon.com/StressNoMore-Olive-Bee-Intimate-Cream/dp/B07BYKV3KN Ohnut / Barrier Rings: https://amzn.to/2Z6v5Ks Mona Lisa Touch: https://www.smilemonalisa.com/ CONNECT with Tess Tess's company - ConnectAble Therapies: https://www.connectabletherapies.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/connectabletherapies YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCebSdi7vbc4Jr5lwLmo08hQ?view_as=subscriber CONNECT with us www.PrettyWellness.com/podcast - for more information on the podcast episodes www.PrettyWellness.com/cancer-resources - easily accessible cancer information www.Instagram.com/prettywellness - for daily wellness tips www.CarynSullivan.com - for more information Our Social Media: www.Instagram.com/prettywellness www.Facebook.com/PrettyWellness www.Twitter.com/PrettyWellness To Buy the Book: Happiness through Hardship - The Book: amzn.to/39PAjuT To Donate a Book to a Cancer Center: PrettyWellness.com/book To get a free copy of our smoothies and snacks ebook: PrettyWellness.com/Freebies Genre Storytelling